Whats up with my mom going crazy over my hair??

so we went to the salon today, and i brought my computer to show the lady a few pictures of how i wanted my hair done [they were of my old neighbor who moved away but came to visit] and she told me to bring them up while she did something real quick. so i brought them up and my mom was standing there saying stuff like "i dont like it..it wont look the same on you" and i was like "well shell fix that to make it look good" but she kept going on and on and started saying stuff about the girl..like "she has a huge forhead and is going bald...shes not that pretty" and i was like "umm...u jsut like her hair" but she was like "shut up. blah blah" so i said again "i dont care i like her hair and i want to get it" she yelled "SHUT UP! YOU DONT GET THE LAST WORD I DO!" so i was like "but what are we arguing about?" and she goes "SHUT UP!!!!" personally, i think she was jealous of the girl becasue she is really pretty and she was kinda the popular girl back in school

Whats up with my mom going crazy over my hair??

Your mother did seem to be a little negative. Is she normally so negative? If not ask her what the deal is.

Whats up with my mom going crazy over my hair??

You should listen to your mother.

And why did you wait until you got to the hair salon to let your mother see the hairstyles you picked out? You should have shown them to her before and had your little debate beforehand. Sounds like you knew how your mother would react and wanted that.

Whats up with my mom going crazy over my hair??

You make yourself sound like a real brat talking to your mother that way.

Whats up with my mom going crazy over my hair??

she wants the say on how you have your hair done

Whats up with my mom going crazy over my hair??

when you both calm down, ask her. She may just need to feel "needed" in your life.

Whats up with my mom going crazy over my hair??

That seems a little extreme but maybe something happened with the girl that you don't know about. Or something happened to your mother that made her "remmeber" it during the setting.

Try talking to her but no I don't think the way she spoke to you was neccesary or right.

Whats up with my mom going crazy over my hair??

I bet your mom went nuts because you already have beautiful hair the way it is and you want to chop it all off.

Maybe what looks good on one person might not look right on you.

My mother is the same way.

Whats up with my mom going crazy over my hair??

maybe she was super stressed out and put it over you or because she is super protective about you and knowing that guys maybe looking at you n stuff, i dono, talk to her about it

Whats up with my mom going crazy over my hair??

Sounds a bit strange to me. I am a mother of 2 kids, one of whom is a 9 year old girl (my son is 18). My daughter has extremely long hair and it tangles easily because it is so fine. I have tried to encourage her to cut it into a style that is more easily manageable and still makes her feel pretty. She begs me not to cut her hair. Others try to tell me, when they see how difficult it is to keep the tangles at bay, that I should insist on cutting her hair. I tell them that it is my DAUGHTER'S hair, not mine or anyone else's. It is SHE who has to look at it each day in the mirror and SHE who has to wear it and style it. It is SHE who has to feel good about herself when she looks in the mirror, and if she feels best with super long hair, then so be it. I let her have her hair the way she likes it. When her hair is brushed and tangle-free, it is quite beautiful and she gets many compliments on it.

My point to this is that I think your mother over-reacted and tried to be too controlling. There comes a point as a parent when you need to allow your children to choose for themselves, and how they choose to wear their hair is one of those things. Now if you were trying to go outside half naked, as many teenagers and young women do these days, THEN I could see your mother having a thing to say about that if you live in the same home under her rules. But for crying out loud, this is just hair !! It's not like you were being immodest, or making a statement with your appearance. You were merely trying to choose a style that you felt you would enjoy having and would look good on you.

Your mother was wrong. You can't tell her that however, or you will be disrespectful. What you CAN do is to ask the stylist to keep the photo and see if she can find a similar hairstyle for you in those hairstyle books that are often in hair salons. Perhaps the stylist can take your facial features, hair color and texture and find the style most suitable for you, which most closely resembles the photo you brought. If it is not the photo of the neighbor your mother apparently doesn't like, then it might make your mother more accepting of it. The only other idea I can suggest is to talk to another adult who you respect and who your mother might listen to, explain your dilema and ask for their assistance in talking to your mother on your behalf.

Whats up with my mom going crazy over my hair??

Whatever was said sounds quite petty! She either liked the style you wanted or not.... It had nothing to to with 'the girls' hair.....

Anyway, maybe that sort of argument didnt have to happen in public where she embarressed you and made herself look stupid too!